When we plant a seed we cannot see what is happening under the surface of the dirt. Yet we are patient and believe it is growing. So often our impatience is our undoing. We start off well, plant the mental seeds, believe in our growth.... And then we lose our patience. We dig up the seed to see if its growing and then get upset when it hasn't grown as much as we thought, try replanting it, dig it up again to check again, and then wonder why it didn't grow at all. When we dig it up and have lost our patience it is because we have lost our belief. The faith that is required. The optimist perspective. The pessimist only believes what they can see. The optimist believes that the best will happen and has faith in the unseen. How do we keep our Patience and Belief? By being present and not gripping so tightly to what we want. We have to be okay with sometimes doing nothing but waiting while all the while believing. We don't sit and watch the dirt waiting for the plant to grow. We believe it has the right soil, sun and water and so it will grow. Then one day we see it pop through the surface.

Are your beliefs blocking and sabotaging your conscious intentions? You have made every positive intention, have done all the affirmations, the vision boards and have made the effort to take inspired actions.... yet for some reason something keeps coming up to stop you? You start well and then BANG a sabotaging event that throws you off track completely. The drama that comes up and suddenly its all back to the way it was. If this repeatedly happens you can start to question if the universe hates you, believe you are unlucky or its just not meant to be for you. Reality is you are likely doing this to yourself... unconsciously. If you have a subconscious belief that is in contradiction to your conscious intention, you will sabotage your own efforts and attract events that block you without even realising it. We need to let go of these beliefs before we can begin to see the benefits of our conscious work. How to tell if you have a limiting or blocking subconscious belief? Ask yourself some questions and see how you feel. Do it in front of a mirror - what does your facial expression do? What are the first thoughts that pop up in your mind. For example, if it is in relation to money ask yourself what do I think of rich people? If your answer is that they are all evil arseholes then you have a subconscious belief that having lots of money will make you into an evil arsehole so of course you will subconsciously find ways to sabotage your efforts to make money. If you want to lose weight ask yourself what do you think about skinny and fit people? If there is jealousy in your response or a feeling of "they are not like me" then you will subconsciously sabotage your efforts. Remembering a new habit takes 2-8 months to develop so it can be nearly impossible to stick it out this long if subconsciously your mind is working against you because of beliefs you established a long long time before you decided you wanted to change. Don't feel bad about it, simply being aware of it is the first step. Once you discover your limiting and blocking beliefs you can then do the work towards rewriting or deleting them.

Ask anyone what freedom means and you will get many different answers. Yet essentially it is our ability to choose and be our authentic selves without fear. It is one of our needs as humans, to feel free in order to thrive and be fulfilled in life. Yet too often we sacrifice freedom for lower order needs such as safety and being accepted. The truth is, all these things can exit together without sacrificing one for the other. We can be free, safe and accepted by simply being ourselves. It is only fear that entraps us. An illusion. "What if" can be your greatest undoing. Or it can be your greatest beginning. What if it works out great. What if they love me. When the leap is taken outside the cage walls of the comfort zone we realise we are all safe, accepted and free because we gave all those things to ourselves first when we chose to do what is best for us. Your comfort zone is only good for you if you venture outside its walls everyday. If not, then it has become your prison. What does freedom mean to you?

Taking risks to grow your beliefs. The saying goes that the comfort zone is nice but nothing grows there. We go through day by day living most of lives in our own minds with 95% of our thoughts being repetitive. If we want to create new ideas, new thoughts and new perceptions, then we need to do new things. How do we really challenge our perception of reality? By taking "risks," challenging our preconceived ideas, beliefs and fears. S T R E T C H yourself. By stretching yourself you will begin to see the world from many different perspectives. You will begin to challenge the repetitive thoughts and suddenly new ones will begin to pop in as your mind has been stretched and now has new information to digest and use. The comfort zone is a nice place to retreat to when you need rest, but we need to take daily adventures outside to acquire new information and experience. Go do something new. Read something different. Talk to someone with a different point of view. Do the thing that scares you. G R O W!

The modern lifestyle us full with to do list and empty on energy. We sacrifice long term fulfilment for short term gratification in the form of shopping and substances. Any wonder before long we end up burnt out and depressed or run down and get sick. How do we get off this track that seems to be normal, yet not conducive to wellbeing?

​

​

Start scheduling in RECHARGE time. This is the time you spend unplugged and not doing the do list tasks. This doesn't mean you have to literally sit and do nothing during this time (although that is an option!). There is a difference between action that is the routine daily responsibilities and the action that is inspired, passion filled and creative. The later will give you energy. The first type takes it away.

Less to do, more to be. 🙏

Have you ever wondered why reality TV is so popular? Have you ever wondered what happens when we watch it? We judge. Criticise and laugh. And gossip. The lowest use of our energy. Reality TV invites us to judge others and then temporarily feel good that "at least I'm not as bad as that." Or on the other end, it makes us judge ourselves for not being enough of something.

I had to switch off the radio yesterday as every station was full of people judging, laughing and criticising young women. It made my insides turn that so many others are buying into this and lowering their energy to this frequency. You truly do attract to yourself what you focus on. Reality TV can be an opportunity to identify positives and encourage and support people. Or it can be the biggest negativity trap.

Be the rider, not the one being taken for a ride. We've all been there. The thought that creeps in, and it catches your attention and next thing you know 10 minutes has passed and you have over analysed everything bad that could possibly happen about a fictional situation that may or may not ever see the light of day. Yet the thought came in, grew roots and made itself at home.

​

Sigh.

​

What has happened is we have been the rider standing in the chariot and then the horse decided it wanted to go in one direction and instead of reigning it back in, we let it go and now it's gone to a place we never wanted to be in. We let our thoughts take us for a ride.

Being the rider mean taking the reigns and when the bad thought creeps in we stand firm and say, nope back this way! The mind is just like the horse, consistent discipline will see it be your greatest friend. Allow it to run around everywhere and you will be constantly frustrated and resentful.

Take the reigns. You are the rider.

Your energy vibration is like a radio station. If you are on this station over here and it feels low, sad, depressing, you can choose to change the radio station and elevate your vibration to one that feels better. Then you are sending out the signal of high energy vibration that feels good and therefore bringing to you more of the same. Others who are also listening to the same station and the same music as you will be drawn to you. Those who are on a different station to you wont be able to connect and will begin to fall away and find their crowd. What is the easiest way to jump stations?

✅ find something to be grateful for
✅ think of a memory that made you really happy
✅ watch a funny video that makes you laugh
✅ inhale high vibe essential oils - lavender, rose, peppermint, frankincense and sandalwood

If I asked you to tell me who you are, would you respond with who you are or what you do? Would you respond with your job title, your role titles in life such a parent, friend, family member... or any of the other various responsibilities you hold?

​

These things are things you do, not who you are. Your being is so much more than the jobs you do. Our Self Concept is who we see ourselves as being. When we have not found our Self Concept we tend to attach our idea of self to our titles. However this leaves us vulnerable to fluctuations in our Self Esteem. Our Self Esteem is how we feel about our Self Concept. So if we have attached our idea of self to the things we do, the moment those titles change or disappear or we feel we have not performed those roles well, our Self Esteem will plummet. We lose our identity. When we don't have a strong Self Concept then we also haven't identified our Self Worth. If our worth is tied into what we do then once again it will fluctuate with the performance of those things we do.

So why is it important to know our Self Concept? Because once we know who we really are, we are authentically ourselves with everyone. Regardless of the job title or role we play. Our sense of worth is established and linked to our internal belief of self. Our Self Esteem will be based on how we feel about who we really are inside regardless of the external forces around us.

As they say Self Esteem and Worth is an inside job and it starts with knowing who you really are when all the titles are stripped away. So the question is, who are you?

The Mirror as your powerful mindset tool. Before I knew the power of the mirror I was already using it as a learning tool. For my year 12 exams I would study before a full length mirror, reading my content and then putting it in my own words telling myself in the mirror. Fast forward over a decade later and I still use the mirror as my learning and mindset partner. By seeing yourself speak the words and hear your own voice you can access your subconscious mind with a much greater impact. Some of the world's greatest speakers have used the mirror as their number 1 tool. By speaking to the mirror first you are embedding the message in the depths of your mind.

Tips to use the mirror:
✅ use a full length mirror so you see your whole self reflection
✅ make eye contact with yourself
✅ do it daily

Notice your expression, tone of voice and your body posture. You are speaking to you here, no one else. Use affirmations, use positive language, stand up straight and smile. Bring all your positivity and energy to this time. This is your chance to embed the message deep within. You want it to feel good and to continue to have an impact long after you step away from your reflection.

By definition a realist has an expectation of what will happen based on what they can see now and what they have experienced in the past. If you want to change your beliefs, grow your perspective and build a new mindset then you need to experience new things, find new facts.... or become an optimist. Many people default to realism because of past pain and disappointment and so they use the realist attitude to protect themselves from disappointment. But this strangles creativity and growth. Failure or not getting something is not the end of the story. It is part of the journey. By not getting something you either see it was a blessing as something better comes along, or you find another way. Either way you have grown from the experience. The most successful people began with just an idea in their minds and hope in their hearts.... and an army of realists telling them it has never been done. The world needs more optimists.

Judgement, Criticism and Assumptions - The killer of connection, relationships, friendships and creativity.
 

Our brains are wired to categorise stuff as a means of processing large amounts of information and then quickly retrieving it. Its a survival mechanism so we can say "ohh fire don't touch" or "Lion, run!"
 

But beyond the jungle allowing this default process to occur can be really detrimental to relationships. When someone Shares with us their ideas or their perspective we have a choice of how we respond. If we use judgement then we are simply using our past experience and imposing it on another person's situation. If we use assumptions it is because we don't have all the information so our brain fills in the blanks using, again past experience. And so if we are judgmental and critical, we haven't really listened to the person. Think of how many conversations where you spend time debating who is right. This destroys connection and trust. And worst of all you could impact someone else's perspective by enforcing your own.
 

So what is the better way? Curiosity. Ask questions rather than giving judgement. Ask questions instead of making assumptions. L I S T E N with the intent to hear the words not just waiting for a chance to respond. There is nothing worse than talking to someone and they are in their own heads rehearsing their response so they can show you they are right. By listening and asking questions you are going to grow your own perspective by allowing new thought in, you build trust in your relationships and all parties grow from the experience. Being argumentative and judgmental may win the day but it does not win at life. Find curiosity and reign in the urge to dispute anything and everything that challenges your current beliefs. There is a lot we don't know, open up to learning more especially from those you care about.

Everyone has heard of the 21 days to create a habit... myth. It was actually started in the 50s when a plastic surgeon said his patients started to get used to to their new faces after 21 days. More recent studies have shown a new habit actually takes between 2 and 8 months to really sink in. 2 to 8 months. That means it is going to take a long term commitment to reprogram with continued repetition. Take note, your subconscious thinks it has done a great job with your current habits. It took in your environment, social programming and repetitive actions and built an auto pilot program. It doesn't want to change. It's not easy to change. It isn't meant to be easy. It's designed to protect you so it shouldn't be easy to reprogram. With all of this in perspective, you need something to keep you going long after the initial motivation is gone. A reminder, a trigger to bring the action. A routine that makes you do the action without much effort (same time/place for example). And of course the reward. It has to feel good to bring you back. Otherwise what's the point of changing if its not going to make you feel better?

Ahhhh the mind. Nothing hurts you more than your own thoughts. The imagination is meant to be a powerful tool to help us grow. Yet unchecked it can run off into fear producing thoughts of the worst of everything. If you follow the white rabbit down the hole, those fearful imaginings will begin to convince you its real. Yet the only thing that is ever real is the present. Get in to the moment and out of your thoughts. "But I dont know how!?" It's a simple as starting with noticing the detail in the space around you. Who or what. The sounds and colours..feel the textures. Notice the world around you and focus on just that. And in that moment you are present.

Mornings set the tone for the rest of your day. 17 seconds of positive thoughts and positive feelings can set into motion a wave of high vibration energy that will propel the rest of the day. Check in, how do you wake up in the morning? With a positive outlook or with a groan and a winge. Simply being grateful for waking up to a new day is enough. Focus on what inspires you. Give thanks and appreciation what you have and mean it. You are blessed to have so many gifts yet the world of consumerism wants to make you think that you don't so that you go and buy more and want more and don't feel good enough. You are more than good enough and are blessed with infinite potential. Say thank you and smile when you awaken. Breathe. Feel the pillow under your head and sheets on your skin and the warmth. Enjoy the sensation before you begin the rest of the day. This is being in the moment. This is starting the day with presence.

Water and 2 cups? That's it? Yes. Water is such a powerful tool in changing energy. We use water to cleanse everything, ourselves, our homes, our clothes... It can also be used to help hold an intention and to manifest as well.

The 2 cup method goes as follows. In 1 cup you have your water and current state written (I have used post it notes here). The second cup is empty and has your desired state written down. Take the water from the current state and pour into the desired state. Hold the desired state cup and focus on your desire. Feel it. Then, drink up. Allow the water with your desired state to become a part of you. Embody the intention. Embody its energy. Happy hydrating and manifesting 🙏

Character is built in the dark times, in the mud. When things are hard, seem impossible and it hurts to breathe. When the mud is thick and seems to pull you down into it, not letting you rise up... that is when your pure courage and strength get you through. Your courage stands you up. And this is your test of character. The strength you build by not giving up when the test is hard. Everyone can be happy and successful when the sun is shinning. Character is built in the dark depths of madness, despair and hopelessness. In the mud is where you grow.